To Fake or Not To Fake

In the quest for pleasing our partners, both men and women have been known to fake an orgasm once or twice. While over 50% of women admit to faking an orgasm, the figure with men is much lower, coming in at 23%. So why do we do it?

There are many reasons that people fake orgasms. The most common reason given is to please your partner. Other reasons given include not hurting your partner’s feelings, being bored of sex and wanting it to be over. So the reasons we fake orgasms often boil down to not hurting the person we are with. But is that a good enough reason?

The problem with faking an orgasm is that the reasons you faked it never come out into the open. If your partner isn’t pleasing you, but thinks he (or she) is, then they’ll just keep on doing whatever it is that they are doing because they think you like it. Which means that faking an orgasm can lead to you having a lot less fun in bed.

So what are the other solutions? Well, an open and honest talk about sexual arousal may seem like a hard thing to do, but if you trust your partner there is nothing to be scared of. They will (or at least they should) want to please you just as much as you want to please them. If you are too nervous to initiate a conversation, ask them what they like in bed – once they are done telling you what turns them on, you can go next. Giving physical signs when they are hitting the right spot is also a good idea – instead of faking an orgasm, just play it up a bit when you are enjoying what they’re doing, and they’ll keep on going.

If the reason that you are faking an orgasm is because you are having trouble having one at all, then there could be a medical reason behind it. If that is the case, speaking to your medical practitioner or using medications such as Viagra or Sure Romance could be a better long term solution.